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The Warrior’s Battle Cry – Ground Rule 11: Use Your Energy Wisely / Pick Your Battles / Own Your Life

03.25.2022 by Sandra Hoskins //

As I write this, the world is going to heck in handcart. We are coming out of a global pandemic, Justin Trudeau has become Canada’s NDP Prime Minister, Britain is divorcing the European Union, and Russia has invaded Ukraine. We are inundated every day with endless rounds of comments on social media, whether they are factual or not. My father used to say that one should never discuss politics, religion, and business when you are under the influence of alcohol. The same premise applies to online forums. Just because you have a keyboard, it doesn’t mean that you should post. I spent most of the last 24 months sitting on my hands so that I didn’t respond to some of the drivel that I saw roll past my eyeballs.

As I look at my world today, one thing that I have come to understand is that I have to pick my battles with care and caution. It is about winning a war rather than a skirmish. Every time that we pick a fight, become affronted, internalize a comment, or just plain own someone else’s stuff, we give away a piece of our soul. We let someone else direct our personal journey. No one except you gets the right to make choices for you. The only exception to that rule is if you are incapacitated.  Even incapacitated, I have made my requirements well known. They are not wishes, they are requirements.

Former Secretary of State for the USA Hillary Clinton paraphrased a poem at the funeral service for the Honourable Elijah Cummings. As soon as I heard the words, I knew that I had found a voice that could articulate a message that I give to my team members. I always tell people that we only have the moment that we are in. The words in the poem are a powerful reminder that life is fleeting.

“Life is just a minute—only sixty seconds in it.
Forced upon you—can’t refuse it.
Didn’t seek it—didn’t choose it.
But it’s up to you to use it.
You must suffer if you lose it.
Give an account if you abuse it.
Just a tiny, little minute,
But eternity is in it!”

Quoted by: Dr. Benjamin Elijah Mays, Past President of Morehouse College
Original attribution by Dr. Mays was to Anonymous.

The above is one sobering message.  Here is some food for thought:

  1. What needless battles could you have avoided?
  2. When could you have stepped away instead of stepping forward?
  3. When should you have stepped forward instead of stepping away?
  4. When could you have lived the minute that you were in with joy rather than anger and deceit?
  5. When could you have used that minute to be a genuinely better human being?
  6. Can you list all the grievances that you have with your life or the people in it?
  7. Will you let go of the grievances and live for the moment that you are in?

My Rule 11 Challenge for you: 

  1. Let go of the baggage. No one has the right to muddy the waters of your life. We all keep a trunk that we are afraid to open. If we open it, it will become a kind of Pandora’s box. It isn’t that we have to let the evils out.  It is that we need to let the sunlight in. Take the list out of the box and get started.
  2. Start with a single suitcase. Pick one thing off your list.
  3. Write a total truth letter. I owe this idea to Jack Canfield and a number of other people who have positively impacted my life. It works like this: Write the letter. Be brutally honest. Seal it in an envelop. Go out and set fire to it. Ask whatever Supreme Being that you believe in to support you as you let go of whatever was holding you back.
  4. Live your minute. Don’t let someone else own your time. Life is too short.
  5. Repeat Steps 1 through 4 until you have addressed every one of the battles or hurts that you accepted as yours when they weren’t.

The poem has made me re-evaluate the way that I will respond to events. I, too, own some things that I should not. They are going to be purged from my memory banks. I know it won’t be easy.  Easy has never been part of my life anyway. All those character-building events that have shaped my life were never based on easy.  Some of them were damned hard and gut-wrenching.  When you let someone else control your life, you let them take control of a piece of your soul. You need to become the conductor of your life rather than a bystander.

I have picked up the baton.  Will you?

Have an absolutely amazing week.

Quotes of the Week

 

“The only easy day was yesterday.” – US Navy Seals

“0% of yesterday matters (can’t fix it but can learn from it), 20% of today will influence 80% of tomorrow.”  Paraphrased from Graham Hogg.

“Since everybody is an individual, nobody can be you. You are unique. No one can tell you how to use your time. It is yours. Your life is your own. You mold it. You make it.” Eleanor Roosevelt

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